Most men find nothing more mesmerizing than watching a woman peel off layers of clothing while she gradually reveals the goodies underneath. This is why there are so many “gentlemen’s clubs” around the world. Professionals know that a well-executed striptease has the potential for big rewards. But taking it all off is much more than gyrating to music and flashing some T&A—it’s about getting the juices flowing.
Here are some guidelines on how to striptease like a seasoned professional.
If the tale of Salome has taught us anything is that women have the power lure men with seductive moves. From belly dancing to tea dancing to full nude dancing—the message is always the same—enticement. Exotic dancing is a great way of building excitement, minus the head on a platter thing. It is also not a bad form of exercise either. As with any physical activity, you will need to warm up the body before the show begins.
Body in Motion
Although you don’t need to be Flex Armstrong, you will need to stretch out your limbs. Get the blood flowing by bending down and touching your toes, raising your arms high above your head just to loosen things up a bit. Take a deep breath with every movement. Now, it’s time to practice a little choreography in front of a mirror. Locate the best angles and use your assets to your advantage.
Love the Shape You’re In
Women are conditioned to believe that they need to be a size 2 in order to look sexy. I’m here to say you can feel sexy no matter your size or shape. We all can’t be expected to emulate being a Victoria’s Secret model, which in my opinion aren’t that sexy anyway. The female form is beautiful and what makes us sexy is being comfortable with that idea. Confidence breeds sexiness.
Dressed the Thrill
Instead of wasting money on “stripper” gear, try garments you already feel sexy wearing. If it’s push-up bra that gives you a little more up top, do it. If it’s a silk little nightie that shows off your legs but hides your tummy, go for it. You can even start with a favorite pair of jeans and a t-shirt. Your audience is going to love it all.
If you’re going the high-art route, you will definitely want more layers. Use items already in your closet like a collared shirt and pencil skirt, and pair them with seamed stocking and elegant heels. Avoid slipping into something less comfortable, like an elaborate bodice with 1000 clasps. That shit takes forever to remove. Plus, it can make you feel awkward. The last thing you’ll want is to suddenly break out in curse words when one of them gets stuck.
You don’t have to be a Dita Von Teese set designer to create a killer atmosphere. I’m not talking about lifesize champagne classes filled with bubbles. But if you’re looking to kill the mood, try doing a striptease in a room filled with dirty laundry. Incorporating just a little bit of production into your striptease goes a very long way. You want all eyes focused on you, so find a space that’s clean and free from clutter. This gives you plenty of space to flick your hair and kick up your heels. Nothing flatters the body like ambient lights. Try lighting candles or dimming the lights. In fact, a German study found that dimming the lights can increase your creativity by making you feel “free from constraints.”
Don’t forget to use some props like a riding crop or feather duster or a wooden spoon. Tie your lover down to a chair. Sit him down and shut him up. Whatever you do, let your partner know that you’re principal star attraction, and he’s not allowed to touch you until you say so.
Enter the Alter-Ego
So you’re all dressed up and second guessing the whole thing. That’s okay! You can work virtually any man into a frenzy with simple and slow methodical moves. Performing a striptease is more than just taking off your clothes to music. It’s an illusion designed for seduction. You’re no longer a wife or mother—you’re a woman who is in complete control. If you’re feeling self-conscious or having a difficult time building up the nerve to do a striptease, then just pretend that you’re someone else, someone famous. Expressing an entirely different persona is all part of the show.
With the spotlight entirely on you, start by removing smallest items first. This is where layers become important. If your hair is up, release it and sway it with music. Wearing stockings? Start by unclipping from the garter and rolling each down while your legs is propped on a chair. Don’t forget to make contact with your audience by lightly caressing him with a stimulating touch.
Since anticipation is the name of the game, once you start removing larger items of clothing, do it slow. One-button-at-a-time. Tease him by pulling your skirt up just a little, giving him a peek at you panties, and then pulling it back down as you look over your shoulder at him.
Once you get down to the essentials, don’t just take it all off—that’s boring. Instead, slide one finger under the garment and gingerly push it off your body. With more complicated things like corsets, give him a view of your fingers methodically undoing each hook.
Flirt with him with your eyes. Look at him, then look at your curves, then look back at him to catch his eyes on your body. Maintaining eye contact creates an intimate bond and is powerfully alluring.
Saturday Night Fever
A major part of any hot striptease act is the music. Obviously, your song selection determines the pace of the performance and helps keep you in character. Select music that inspires your movements, whether it’s golden oldies, heavy metal, or techno. Get lost in your own world and give him a peek at some self-pleasure and demonstrate the ways you touch yourself. Moving closer and then further away is paramount to tantalizing him with your scent and body heat. Keep the tempo smooth and upbeat at first then slowly increase the beat. It’s a good idea to slow the pace as you head straight into the final reveal and not have the music too loud.
End with a Bang