Season Affective Disorder can wreck havoc on anyone’s sex life. If you’re like me and suffer from this condition—the thought of removing my cozy clothes and slippers and having sex is usually buried deep in a lonely snow drift.
Rather than succumbing to the siren song of a Slanket, use this time of year for reconnecting with your partner instead. Here are some fiery ways of getting sex back on track.
Trust me, you won’t feel chilly for long.
Prep and Primed
Instead of getting physically prepared for sex separately, use this time to hop in the hot bubble bath or shower together. Make it fun by cleaning each other’s parts. And see if you can distract each other from the task. You might not make it out of the shower at all. Don’t forget to smear on some moisturizer afterward.
Bed and Breakfast
There’s nothing like enjoying a meal in the comfort of your own bed. Surprise your partner and bring them an early morning treat. You can get creative with the syrup or whipped cream from the french toast. However, make sure you’ve got PVC sheets spread out first. Buck tradition and have breakfast for dinner using each other for dessert.
I remember my mom putting a thoughtful note inside my lunch pail from time to time. It made me feel good knowing that she loved me. Now that I think about it, you’re never too old to get a cute, impromptu note. You can specify what’s exactly on your mind. No matter the subject, finding a note ensures that you are on your partner’s mind.
You might appreciate the romantic side of a wintery wonderland, especially if you live in an area that gets a lot of snow. Spark your imagination and be a kid for the day. Bundle up your partner and go sledding, throw snowballs or make snow angels. Then head inside and peel off the layers and take time warming each other up.
I love cuddling on the couch and watching movies with my partner. It’s a great time for us to
bond together. Although porn is an obvious choice, there are so many other steamy options. Why not pop in a how-to video and learn some new positions? Or better yet, log into Erika Lust and select an XConfessions. Her work is a perfect cure for Seasonal Affective Disorder.
Pick a Card
When it comes to sex, we all need a little inspiration every now and again. Take some index cards write exactly what you would like to do to your partner or vice versa. Blindly draw the cards from a bag or hat, and act out the scenes accordingly. Stay committed to having an orgasm and watch the blues melt away.
Body of Art
Make Picasso jealous and create a true masterpiece. Take edible food like chocolate, whipped cream, cheese in can and design a work of art on your partner’s body. Then, enjoy licking it away. If edible art is not your idea of fun on a cold winter’s night, you can create a lasting piece using a Love is Art Kit.
Mix Seasonal Affective Disorder with years of being together and you have a potential recipe for bedroom boredom. If you and your partner have been together for a while, reminiscing about your first date could just be the spark. Recreating your first date can be the key to reactivating the passion. Go back to the places you visited and tap into what attracted you to them in the first place.
Get the Blood Pumping
Experts say exercise is the perfect drug for combatting Seasonal Affective Disorder and depression. But who wants to get dressed and go to the gym. Rather than sticking with the traditional format try activities you can do together. Go sky-diving, take a trapeze calls, sign-up for the Tango, or drive a race car on a professional track. By picking an activity that gets the blood pumping, you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other.
The holidays are notorious for bringing up family trauma and causing relationship rifts. It’s common for Seasonal Affective Disorder to rear its ugly head just right after the New Year. But here’s the good news. Directly after the holiday, hotel and airline prices drop. Take advantage of the saving and book a trip somewhere warm. You and your partner can thaw out from the chilly weather while heating up the passion.