Kink Curiosity: 6 Ways to Explore BDSM

Ready to explore BDSM? First, let’s understand what BDSM means. The 4-letter acronym stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism. The term basically covers a wide spectrum of kinky preferences from restraints to blindfolds to sex charged powerplays. Those who explore BDSM understand the potential for pure sexual expression.

The meaning of BDSM differs from person to person. You don’t have to be hardcore when starting out in the kink world. In fact, I recommend pacing yourself before diving in head first.

Here are 6 ways to explore BDSM for beginners.

STOP!

You will need to understand the tenants of consent before heading into the realm of BDSM. According to National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, “consent is an informed, voluntary agreement between two or more people.” This means you and another party are giving informed, noncoerced, revocable permission to engage in sexual play. Here’s the important provision—revocable. This means that at any given time before, during or after, consent can be withdrawn and any further engagement stopped immediately.

Enjoy the Scenery

BDSM is a marvelous way of expressing kinky sexual fantasies. Your desires can be played in a multitude of ways via a scene. You and a partner work together playing out imaginary (or real life) roles. For instance, one can be a school teacher and the other a pupil. There are all types of scenarios you can create. The only limit is your imagination.

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Power Play

Dominance and submission are key factors in BDSM. Typically referred to as Top and Bottom or Dom and Sub, power plays involve dynamic and fluid characters. You’re not obligated to always remain a top or bottom, though. There are some people who enjoy switching roles for either doling out or receiving so-called “punishments”. The important part of any power play is cooperation and having respect for each other’s limits and boundaries.

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Bondage Accessories

People sometimes make the mistake of buying a bunch of bondage gear only realizing later that BDSM is not for them. I recommend starting off with accessories you will likely feel comfortable using as a beginner. Silky blindfolds are great for heightening the other senses and are fairly innocuous in terms of usability. You can ease into rougher play by incorporating leather restraints and collars. The added weight and texture of leather products lends a sense of authority and authenticity. For impact play, there is a wide variety of implement available from flogger to whips to paddles. But what it really all boils down to is bondage gear is designed for heightening the BDSM experience. The right accessory can really make a scene feel much brighter.

 

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Oddo Leather

 

Restraint Play

The idea of surrendering to a lover is thrilling. But physically restraining someone is a major step. The person being tied down can begin feeling vulnerable at any given time, while the person in command will need to know how to recognize stress. So, before you start tying your lover to the bed posts, make sure you know how each restraint product works. Start familiarizing yourself by checking the buckles and straps. Make certain everything is functioning properly and that there is an easy escape for your partner. Check for loose pieces and rivets, especially when using ball gags.

Once again, restraint play all begins with being imaginative. The sky’s the limit!

No Sex Required

A lot of people are under the assumption that BDSM is about having rough sex. This, of course, is not true. People engage in BDSM for many reasons. For me, it’s about the journey into my mind and not the destination of having an orgasm. I use bondage and discipline as a way to get sexually charged and to let go of control. In fact, not expecting sex makes playing so much more fun.

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No matter the reasons for wanting to explore BDSM, the most important thing is enjoying sexual expression while playing safe.

Let go of inhibitions and see where the journey takes you. You might just surprise yourself.

 

 

 

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