Oral sex does not get the credit it deserves. An amazing form of sexual expression, it can be pleasurable for both the giver and receiver. However, some couples treat oral sex like a side show attraction. A quick lick or suck and you can’t wait to get off the ride. Oral sex is not treated like regular sex. Both men and women use it as a reward for good behavior, while others see it as a special holiday/birthday treat.
We all have our reasons for not performing oral sex. Headaches, stomach pains, feeling too tired; the list goes on and on. The main excuse is that oral sex is just not pleasing to the person doing all the giving. Then, there are those who don’t like getting oral sex too. Go figure! With all the excuses aside, giving oral sex can be just as pleasurable as receiving.
Here are a few tips for making your oral sex sessions pleasurable for you both.
There’s no doubting that oral sex can be physically demanding, especially when you’re in it for the long haul. Your positioning has a lot to do with your performance. That’s why I always recommend using a Liberator Wedge for oral sex. Propping your lover’s ass on this Shape not only adds height, it also lets their legs open wider. Having better access prevents neck and back strain. Plus, the visuals of seeing everything in the candy store is a turn on.
No matter your relationship status, there’s always some type of learning curve when it comes to sex. Before placing your mouth on your partner’s genitals or focusing on the obvious places, I recommend doing a feel around session and exploring other erogenous zones. Getting to know their body is a great way of discerning likes and dislikes. You’ll be surprised how much enjoyment there is in just the simple act of touching.
Open Your Mouth
Communicating is an essential part of any relationship. You would not believe how many couples are too afraid of speaking up during sex. Since we are not equipped with mind reading capabilities, it’s vital that you let your partner know what feels good and what feels bad. For instance, tell them if they are not hitting the spot. You don’t have to be brash. Just offer them a little direction for getting the job done right. That goes for the giver too. Let them know if you’re having difficulty accessing the goody basket or have a kink in your neck. Non-verbal communication such as maneuvering their head or body helps too. Don’t hold back when it comes to getting what you want in bed.
Like I mentioned, giving oral sex should be just as amazing and getting. Because most people get audibly turned on it makes perfect sense to make some sexy noises. Moaning, slurping, and talking sexy is a great way to amp up the arousal. The same goes for the person getting the attention. Be loud and proud, let them know they are doing a great job.
Get Out of Your Head
It’s easy getting wrapped up in the negative thoughts swirling around in our heads. Worrying about chores, the kids, jobs can put a damper on the enjoyment. If you’re having a problem keeping focused try opening your eyes and watching your partner. Also, making periodic eye contact helps fortify your bond.
Let’s give oral sex the attention it truly deserves. Savor the opportunity of being between your lover’s legs and take your time. If you’re daring enough, incorporate some insertable sex toys and some lickable lubes. There’s no excuse for not loving the art of giving and getting oral gratification.